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#21 Law of Attraction survival kit for home-schooling parents

The energy we put out is the energy we get back. i.e., screaming parent = upset child or engaged parent = stimulated child.

Keeping our vibrational frequency high can be tricky at the best of times, when combining this with home-schooling we are, without question going to dip into our energy reserves quickly. 

If we aren’t paying attention to the energy around us and reacting accordingly it’s going to be a bumpy ride.

Here are a few tips on how best to protect your energy and your families whilst home-schooling.

  • Set an intention — how and what we think is a little mind management. If we tell ourselves that today is “going to be a good day” we are sending out an energy to the universe.
  • Believe what you think — when you set your intention for the day you have to believe in the outcome that you’ve laid out. With LoA if there is inconsistency between what you want and how you feel the feeling is a stronger energy/vibration and that will be the message you send out which ultimately what you get back.
  • Make time for your morning routine — set yourself up for success. Keep to your morning routine, these actions set you up for the day ahead. It puts you in a mentally good state. You feel organised, and un-rushed. Your routine can be adapted to suit home-schooling timetable. 
  • Live in the moment — before you embark on home-schooling for the day give yourself enough time beforehand to complete your ‘to does’ i.e., go through emails, put a load of washing on, make urgent calls etc. When you are sat with your child you can give them all of your attention.
  • Go with the flow — we all peak and slump at different times, our children are no different. Create a timetable that suits your household needs but keep it fluid; it doesn’t matter if you start late one day or early the next. What’s more important is your state of mind going into a task — use your energy wisely.
  • Give one other space — sit with your child and go through what is expected of them at the beginning of each lesson. Work alongside them initially, then allow them to explore on their own. If they need reassurance, additional information then offer it to them. Allow them to feel independent and to recognise when to ask for help. 
  • It’s okay to take multiple breaks — especially if you find that your energy is depleting, and your patience is wearing thin. This goes for all involved! You will all benefit from a little down time, even for 5 minutes.
  • Pay attention to your own vibrational frequency — notice if your tone of voice has changed? Are you getting irritable and inpatient? Are your thoughts trailing off to the washing that needs putting away or a work email that pinged 5 minutes ago? If this is the case, then you need to take a break. If your child is in a good space energetically give yourself some time out. If your child is struggling. Have a 5-minute break then play a quick game of snap before carrying on with your task. Remember, if you give yourself time before you start lessons your mind shouldn’t wander so much.
  • When your child is finding something tricky — remove them from where they are working on. Get down to their level or sit beside them and give them a hug, remind them that they are learning. When we are learning it feels difficult, we can’t escape this feeling. When we put what we have learnt into practice we gain an understanding and slowly it becomes easier. It is this feeling that should be celebrated. The transition from difficult to easy is an accomplishment that instantly boosts a child vibrational frequency. It demonstrates perseverance, over-coming a challenge. If a child can learn this when they are young, they are learning a life skill that is far more valuable than any class lesson.
  • Inject some fun — Use laughter to bring the energy back in to the house, it’s an instant mood booster for all involved. When people hear laughter, you can’t help but react in kind – this action alone creates dopamine, serotonin and oxytocin to flood your blood stream and give you that extra boost.
  • The words you voice and think matter — our words set our tone, how we speak to ourselves is a good indicator as to how we are feeling. Unfortunately, our guide can fall as quickly with our loved ones too. Be mindful; use words that encourage, and you genuinely feel. 
  • Strive for in-perfection — we are not teacher’s (well most of us aren’t) we are not taught how to teach our children, and it’s highly likely that our educational experience was a long time ago. Teaching styles have likely to have changed in that time period. We are going to make mistakes; there will be times when we have to sneak off and google what a conjunction is or how to do algebra; but that’s okay. It’s unlikely we will get everything right the first time. Over this lockdown we’ll settle into our own style.  
  • Get some fresh air – If energies are really low and a ‘time out’ isn’t cutting it. Take a family walk. If you are worried about ticking those lessons off, integrate a walking spelling practice or find a bench and let the children read their book. Changing the environment can be uplifting.
  • Pick your battles — we’ve all been there, started an argument, and wished we hadn’t but we’ve committed to seeing it through. This can only end in one way. All involved getting upset. Your main purpose in home-schooling.

Our energy is precious; so be kind to it. Our energy is our communication tool to our environment and the environment reacts in kind. 

Preserve it and care for your family’s energy in equal measures. When you take care of your energy you are taking care of your well-being. 

This is the optimum time for our children to witness how we cope with challenges. They will see us display a rainbow of emotions, ultimately the lesson we want them to gain from these lockdown periods is that we can make the best of any situation that is put in front of us. That we can adapt, laugh and succeed.

If all of the above fails – give yourself an inset day!

#20 Thought dumping and verbal vomiting to achieve your ultimate well-being

I used to keep things bottled up within. From the big to the small things in life. I hated confrontation and the fall out that pursued it, so I did my upmost to avoid them. I felt like I was the ‘better being’ as I wasn’t causing a scene or an unnecessary argument.  But unbeknown to me I was doing way more damage than I ever intended. 

Although I was keeping things to myself, the body has a way of giving hints as to how we truly feel. Our eyes may roll, our facial muscles react in response to words and actions. Our body demeanour has a language of its own that speaks volumes to the people around us who in turn, react and have their own responses.

Within us our thoughts start to grow like a cancer. They spoil into other areas of our mindset and before we even recognise what’s happened, we start to change our underlying feelings over the course of time. Sticking to our temperaments and seeping into our personalities.  Emotions of bitterness, resentfulness, hurt, anger, frustration, jealousy, fear can overcome us and start to influence our world without us even realising.

This process takes it toll on us from the inside. I used to suffer terribly with swollen glands  in the throat area. Never a sore throat, but painful to swallow and tender to touch. It tended to appear during periods of personal stress and/or juggling a busy life. The doctor’s couldn’t detect anything that may be causing it.

When I started to work on my own self-development I became aware of the effects of ill thinking was having on my well-being and body. I finally made the link between keeping schtum and my throat. As soon as I started to open up to others about how I was feeling as well as writing my thoughts down on paper I noticed the positive changes that I felt within. I had removed the ‘blockage’ within my throat as I had found my voice, that had liberated me from my over thinking.

Having a ‘safe space’ to dump your thoughts allows you to play the emotion and scenario out. It gives you the time for reflection, acceptance and understanding of the situation that triggered the original thought. When you put pen to paper or you are physically typing out your thoughts it provides you a moment of clarity. Forming a sentence to reflect your inner most thoughts requires a level of cognition. This process will create new insights and perspectives with the scenario. 

By the time I have completed the ‘dump’ I personally felt so much better. I have released the emotions I had felt, amended my opinion and ultimately felt lighter. If I found that some feelings were lingering I may explore it further in my journal. I may write a letter to that person explaining to them how I feel. This letter will never be sent, it may well be burnt, but either way it’s off my chest. 

I can also highly recommend a session of verbal vomiting. This is best done alone when no one can hear you (for obvious reasons). My favourite time to do this is on a dog walk. I chat out loud about the situation that has irked me and have a little rant. I let the words flow, with as much emotion as I deem necessary and then I stop. I take a metaphorical step back and sense how I am feeling. I ask myself, is there still unrest within me? Has my opinion altered? Do I still feel consumed with the same thoughts? Most often I don’t. I feel calmer and continue my walk in bliss and chat with Buddy (my dog) as normal.

The Science bit Where we hold our stress within our bodies is personal to each of us; some have increased heart palpitations, sweating, aches and pains or stomach upsets. There is a reason for this. We have a nerve that runs from our brain stem and entangles itself through all the major organs called the vagus nerve (aka the wanderer). This nerve acts as a two way transmitter. Not only does it react to the brains signals it receives from our thoughts about our worlds or reality, but more often it communicates from our organs to our brain. The vagus nerve is part of our parasympathetic nervous system (PNS), which is the calming part of the autonomic nervous system (ANS). The ANS is responsible for regulating many involuntary processes within our body. So rather important wouldn’t you say?

If we remind ourselves that our thoughts trigger our emotions, that drives our actions that give us our results. In this process our bodies will produce the relevant emotional chemical i.e. serotonin, endorphins, insulin, adrenaline etc depending on the thought we think. Which is why it’s so important we direct our thoughts.

So, if you find that you are consuming yourself with negative thought patterns your body is going to feel a regular surge of chemicals that put your body in a ‘get ready mode’. You’ll have adrenaline and cortisol being released after thinking a negative thought. If this happens over a period of time our bodies can actually become dependent on these chemicals and will start to crave more of this energy zapping emotional chemical. Your mind will want to recreate the thoughts that enable those chemicals to be released and you’ll find yourself in a pattern.

When we build up our negative thoughts, we are unwittingly creating surges of chemicals within our bodies that have negative side-effects. Over time, we can develop physical aliments due to our consistent thoughts such as high blood pressure, gastrointestinal problems, reduced immune symptom, so we are more susceptible too diseases, we have a higher risk of experiencing anxiety and depression.

Becoming more mindful of our thoughts and directing them in the way we want helps us to heal from within. A wonderful consequence of this means that we start to create a new habit and a more healthy thought pattern. We are also protecting our relationships with the people we want in our lives. This isn’t or shouldn’t be deemed as avoidance; this allows time for you to gain a different perspective so if and when you choose to speak to someone about the ‘subject’ you can do so at a different emotional state and better vibrational frequency. Hopefully achieving a better outcome for all involved.

Looking through the eyes of Law of Attraction, this exercise is perfect for up levelling your vibrational frequency. When our vibrations (energy) is high, we are automatically manifesting things at that level. The higher the vibrational frequency the more your emotions are leaning towards love and joy. The perfect energy to ensure that you are manifesting what you want in to your life now.

Doing a thought dump and verbal vomit regularly acts as a release valve that allows you too safely reset yourself back to a neutral equilibrium. It paves the way to a more positive well-being that ultimately protects us from the inside out.

Win win!

#19 Appreciation v’s Gratitude

At times like these, it’s easy to feel swept away with the strongest emotion that surrounds us. For some, this may be feelings of frustration, anxiety, worry or fear. But for others, this moment has offered us more.  More time, reflection, self-development, rest, and repose.

For those who are struggling at this moment in time I wanted to share with you techniques on how you can help alleviate these feelings.

I like to start and end most days with a rampage of appreciation. A lot of people talk about gratitude rather than appreciation but there is a significant difference between the two. They are used interchangeably, but they do not mean the same thing.

You may have heard people talk about “gratitude journal’s” whereby you write things you are grateful for in your life. There is nothing wrong with this action as it is a great way to raise your vibration. Remember the Law of Attraction is matched to your vibrational frequency and your vibrational frequency is set by your emotions. Being grateful for something gives you a feeling of positive emotion  within you, which is a vibration at the higher end.

But, what if I told you that you could achieve a higher vibrational frequency. It’s a subtle difference, just replace gratitude with APPRECIATION. 

Gratitude vs Appreciation

If you were to look up the definition of gratitude you’d find it was the ‘quality of being thankful’ This definition and our interpretation tends to come with baggage; that the quality of being thankful has taken place after a struggle that you’ve overcome. There is a sense of fear that surrounds that struggle, that you should feel grateful for the good that has come to you. It has a sense of underserving or you are indebted to someone or something for all the good in your life. It is this feeling of baggage that changes the vibrational frequency to a lower one.

So let’s compare this with appreciation. The definition ‘is the recognition and enjoyment of the good qualities of someone or something’. This instantly feels different. It allows us to focus on the good qualities of a person or thing  which immediately takes your vibrational frequency to the highest level.

Increasing the Value

By focusing on the good qualities of something or someone, it offers so much power; partly because appreciation is the identical vibration of love and joy.

Appreciation is more about a calling to be more of who you are whereas gratitude feels separate or external from you. 

Here are a few ways that you can incorporate being more appreciative within your life NOW.

1. The first thing I do before I fully wake up, is to spend a few minutes gifting myself with lots of reasons on why I feel appreciative in my life. This can range from a sunny day, a lie in, drinking an amazing cuppa in bed (such luxury), being paid on time from a client, anticipation for a new experience coming my way that day, healthy family etc. What better way than to start your day in a high vibrational frequency, ready to let the day enfold before you.

2. The last thing at night, before I drift off to sleep, I scan through the day and think of how I feel about my now. Running through all of the things that I am appreciative of; achieving that feeling of love and contentment before submitting to the end of the day should allow you to get a better night sleep. Hopefully this appeases any anxiety or fear that you may be feeling right now.

3. If I find that my energy is waining during the day I like to ‘level-up’ my frequency by doing a rampage of appreciation. You can do this anywhere, at any time. This is where you list as many things that you are appreciative of now (including past, present and future things yet to come). From the smallest to the largest thing that pops in to your head. This can be in the form of a mental download or in your journal. If you work at a computer, open up a word document and start listing, one after the other. The beauty with this is that it looks like you are working. Make sure you keep the document for next time. It’s great to look back on and reflect.

4. As mentioned above, being appreciative of things that have yet to come in to your world is one of the most important elements of Law of Attraction. For us to be in the same vibrational frequency for what we desire, we have to be at the same vibrational frequency of your chosen wish to be able to match it in the NOW. The easiest trick is to act, behave and believe as if it’s already in your possession. So be appreciative of the things that have yet to enter your life now so you are drawing them to you.

5. View the world from a different angle with no alternative motive. Removing any ulterior motive from our perception and consciousness gives us a feeling of a more panoramic view of our existing world. Having a motive has a tendency to close off and influence what we see, say and think. When you remove the intention or pre-determined outcome/look you are opening yourself up to seeing, hearing, experiencing new sensations etc. This openness and new appreciative perspective could quite literally open more doors to you. Who knows where this may lead you.

6. I hold my hands up and confess that I, like many others, have at one time or another disliked my body. When I realise that I have gone back in to this thought pattern I remind myself that my body is a working, fully functioning body that supports me and allows me to play, run and do many more things with my family and friends. I am appreciative of what it can do now and I shouldn’t get bogged down with how I look. When this flip in perception occurs my reflection in the mirror alters. I no longer see the bumps and curves that caused me ‘distress’ earlier felt.

7. Make sure you let people know what they mean to you. Whether this is in a text, phone call, letter, card, email or Skype. Never assume that they know. Tell them. Especially with everything that is going on, finding alternative ways of connecting with one another is important for our wellbeing avoiding isolation and loneliness. 

8. Appreciate the time we have been given and release the guilt of doing little. I struggled with this the other day. I desperately wanted to do nothing but stay in my pyjama’s and watch Netflix. So that is what I did. However, the feeling of guilt was lingering. I had to tell myself to allow this moment to happen and embrace it guilt free. Once I accepted that I didn’t need to be anywhere, there was nothing pressing for me to do I continued to binge watch ‘Love is Blind’.

These are just a few examples of how you can be more appreciative within your life. 

Have a go and feel the difference. You may even find that this new perspective of appreciation has a positive knock on effect on the people around us which can never be a bad thing at this moment in history.